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How To Assess Your Self-Care With 12 Powerful Questions

By Alison

November 4, 2021

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How often do you assess your self-care routine?

Unfortunately, most of us are rubbish at it.  Because when life gets busy, we tend to neglect the most important person – ourselves.  Often we fall into bad habits, and then we go into a spiral of bad choices.

Not Good

Because one of our biggest responsibilities is to protect ourselves from mental health issues, burnouts and fatigue.  Luckily there is a simple way to take stock. You can assess whether you are providing yourself with enough self-care by answering a few questions.

If you’ve set up a system for self-care, then I’m proud of you – everyone should have one.  But how often do you re-assess it?

If you are new to self-care check out this article which will give you the background.

Setting up a self-care routine is not a one-time event.  Life doesn’t stay still for any of us.  So, you’ll need to assess your self-care regularly because the level of care required will change with your circumstances. 

So, unless you re-assess, how will you know if you’re doing the right thing for yourself?   

If you don’t, you might find yourself stressed or just plain knackered.  Only at this point do you realise how far you’ve strayed from who you are.

Get Ready To Assess

take a note as you assess your self-care

Grab a pen and paper so you can make notes as you go through the assessment


Be Honest With Yourself

To get the most out of this exercise, you’ll need to be very honest with yourself. Otherwise, you won’t be able to identify what changes you need to make in your life. 

Often it’s not easy, to be honest with ourselves, so take some time to go through the questions and don’t rush them.  For some, you might need to dig deep.

Only honest answers can provide you with the insights you need to take action.


Find A Quiet Place

To think things through, find a quiet place where you will be undisturbed.  The answers you see will be very personal to you, and you might not feel comfortable sharing them with others.


There’s No Right Answer

There is no right answer.  Remember, we all have:

  • Different tolerance levels
  • React to things differently


Exercise Self-Compassion

If you find that some questions or the thoughts that stem from them make you feel anxious, give yourself a little grace. Please don’t feel shame about your answer. That is not the purpose here.  The aim is to raise your awareness levels.


Support Your Answers

Grab a pen and a piece of paper.  Try to give reasons for your answers or provide specific examples.  This way, you will see more value.


No Judgement

There is no judgement to be made, either of yourself or your answers.  Just allow yourself to be aware of where you are with your:

  • Needs
  • Wants
  • General habits and
  • Stress levels

Answer the self-care questions fully

Remember to answer the questions as fully as possible giving examples and reasons why

The 12 Questions

  • Can you make and take time for yourself without feeling guilty?
  • Are your leisure activities a priority in your life?
  • Do you understand the difference between self-indulgence and self-care?
  • Do you feel as though you deserve your self-care?
  • Do you feel okay about sometimes slowing down?
  • Do you take care of your needs and desires?
  • Do you say yes to requests from others when you should say no?
  • Do you do things you really don’t want to do, or that will overextend you?
  • Are you running on empty?
  • Are you overwhelmed?
  • Are you chronically tired and have a lack of energy?
  • Do you crave and eat junk food often, and especially during times of stress?

Get To The Root

These questions may sound simple, but they really get to the root of whether you are making enough time for yourself and your self-care. Once you have determined whether you are, aren’t, or need to do more, it is essential to take what you have learned and create a personal plan that addresses your entire self.


Consider Your Whole Being

Many think that self-care is all about our physical health, but we are complex beings. 

Physical health is only one aspect.

To take the appropriate care of ourselves, we need to consider all facets of our being. But, unfortunately, too much focus on one area means that another side of us suffers.

Think of a workaholic.  Their whole focus is on how they do at work, but if this is all they focus on, then other areas of their life will suffer, such as:

  • Home
  • Relationships
  • Social life

Below are some suggestions to improve your self-care. 

If you have not been paying much attention to your self-care overall, try and do something from each category.

Or, if your focus has been on one or two categories, explore how you can incorporate the others.  Ideally, I’d love you to adopt all of the suggestions.  But be kind to yourself.  You can start small and build up from there.

self-care suggestions to assess your self-care

make a list of the self-care practices you will adopt. When you commit to it in writing you're more likely to take action


Suggestions To Improve Your Self-Care


Physical Self-Care

  • Enjoy a nutritious diet
  • Drink water
  • Exercise regularly
  • Get good sleep
  • Enjoy a regular massage
  • Practice yoga or meditate daily
  • Learn time management and know when to say no to manage your stress levels

Mental Self-Care

  • Journal
  • Mindful Meditation
  • Read for enjoyment
  • Take note of negative self-talk and redirect it to positivity

Emotional Self-Care

  • Honour your feelings
  • Don’t be afraid to share how you’re feeling with others
  • Learn to laugh at yourself
  • Learn to be compassionate with yourself
  • Practice the activities you enjoy, whether it’s golfing, baking, knitting, or gardening
  • Set boundaries

Spiritual Self-Care

  • Garden
  • Watch the sunset (or the sunrise)
  • Listen to music that soothes your soul
  • Spend time in nature


Final Thoughts

How can you be of any use to others if you are unable to look after yourself? It isn’t just your physical self that requires self-care, but also your spiritual, emotional, and mental sides.

Self-care is a necessity to maintain your whole self.  Never consider it a luxury you can’t afford or don’t have the time for. 

And talking of time, don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself. Everyone deserves to find happiness, health, and peace – even you. You can’t perform at your best or adequately serve others if you can’t put yourself first.



About the author

Life is complicated. We get caught up in the should, need and must do's. I know I did. I lived a life where I was more concerned about pleasing others and keeping up appearances for many years. Until I became ill. The confidence I had disappeared overnight, but slowly I built my confidence back up. I know what it's like to have confidence, lose it and then regain it. Confidence isn't a shout in your face, loud behaviour. It's more about having control over your life and having belief in yourself. I believe you can gain confidence, whatever your age. Kiss stress, anxiety and people-pleasing goodbye and live life on your terms. Let me show you how.

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